Grieving a Loss

Grieving can occur in response to any type of situation such as the end of a divorce, end of a relationship, terminal illness, and the death of loved one or pet.  Linden Funeral Home staff understands this is not an easy time. We have provided helpful information about the grieving for you to read. The Five Stages of Grief is a model that defines how people process grief after dealing with a loss. Although, everyone experience grief differently, you may not feel each of the stages defined in the model.  Having an understanding of the model, shows us that our feelings are normal and it takes time. 

The Grieving Process

Grief is a natural reaction to the loss we experience when someone we care about dies. As painful and difficult as it is, the grieving process is an important step in healing. There are no quick fixes but there are things you can do to help make coping easier. The Five Stages of Grief tells us that we must work through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

1) Don’t rush yourself. Working through grief takes time. While you may be anxious for things to return to normal, you should give yourself time to mourn.

2) Stay connected. Spend time with friends and family. Being around people who care about you and that you care about can help. Resist the urge to isolate yourself. While it can be comforting to be around others who are experiencing similar feelings, be sure not to spend all your time with others who are grieving.

3) Take care of yourself. Eat properly and get enough sleep. Staying active can help you stay strong and put you in a better position to deal with your feelings. Exercise has been shown to cause metabolic changes that can help relieve sadness.

4) Do what you enjoy. If you have a hobby or activity that gives you pleasure, by all means, take part in it. Doing the things we enjoy can provide a welcome relief. For some people, listening to music helps. For others, spending time outdoors, taking in a play, or reading a good book can be an escape.

5) Get help if you feel you need it. Sadness is perfectly normal, but if you feel you cannot attend to your normal activities or you are worried that you are not coping well, reach out. Talk with friends or family members, consult with your doctor or call a hotline.

Five Things to Remember About Grief

Knowing that there is no magic formula to make your grief go away may not make you feel much better. But there are a few things to keep in mind that may help and important to remember about grief:

(1). Everyone grieves differently. Despite what others may say, no one knows exactly how you feel. The grieving process is different for everyone. What you are feeling is unique to you. So give yourself a break.  There is no defined way that you should be feeling at any particular time.

(2). There is no timetable for grief. How quickly you start to feel like your old self will depend on many factors. Some people bounce back quickly while others need more time. If you feel uncomfortable with how long it is taking you to recover, consider seeking help. Support groups and professional grief counselors are available to help you understand what you are experiencing.

(3). Grief is natural: There is nothing strange or unnatural about the grieving process. We all experience it at some time.

(4). You are not alone. Spending time with those who care about you can offer comfort. Seek out friends and family who will understand what you are going through.

(5). It will get better. It may take a while but over time you will be able to settle back into a normal routine. That doesn’t mean that you won’t continue to miss the person you have lost. But you will be able to remember them without the intense feelings that come with a recent loss.